“Pusillanimous”

Adjective
1. Showing a lack of courage or determination; timid”

Yes. We are going to refer to your vagina as pussy as Mama Gena does in her book “Pussy: A Reclamation.” Why? Because as young girls and women we are taught to not talk about our pussy. We are told to sit with our legs crossed, to not play on the jungle gym in a dress and to refer to our pussy as, “down there.” We are told growing up that the female body is flawed and the vagina only provides medical issues that must be controlled (smell, blood, hair etc.). Fuck that. We are also told that to be a good daughter, mother, sister that we need to be self-sacrificing and take care of others first. Time this bullshit stopped! Or at least we start paying attention to our own desires. 

There is compelling evidence out there in the science world about how our organs not only contain receptor sites for neuro-chemicals of thought and emotion, but our organs and immune system can themselves manufacture these same chemicals. Our entire body feels and expresses emotion. The body-mind connection is very real indeed. So often we ignore our inner guidance because it is a system based on feeling, not necessarily our pure intellect because we choose to engage our masculine energy over our feminine  (you could also refer to this are left brain/ right brain—-tomato, tomAto) . I love my masculine energy but I also like to try to honour my feminine energy as well. 

Girls and women are not taught how to access their own, as Mama Gena puts it, “turn-on.”  . This is whatever makes you feel sexy, beautiful, alive, happy or completely lit up! The pleasure pony express. When we continue to deny, overwork, sacrifice and settle we shut down our turn-on. Last week I talked about how to tap into your divine feminine source- and one such way is through reclaiming your erotic self. There are many ways to go about this so use this as very open-ended personal exploration starting point. 

Notice What Lights You Up

Close your eyes. What have you done today that has given you pleasure? A morning walk? A delicious Kombucha while going bra-less? Shaved or full bush? Picking up some heavy weights with some lipstick on? Or messy-bun out for a greasy run? Dancing furiously in your kitchen in your underpants while making breakfast? What pleases you? Do more of it and have no second thoughts about selfishness or guilt. If there is a “should” before your chosen pleasure activity that means it is not pleasurable but more of an obligation. 

Think About and Touch Your Pussy More

When was the last time you looked at your pussy? And said, “Hello beautiful!” Your pussy has been made purely to give you amazing, life-expanding pleasure. The clitoris is packed with 8000 very sensitive nerve endings. It has been placed there by intelligent design to bring you pleasure. Do you know how you like your clitoris stroked? If you have a partner do they know? Do you think nice thoughts about your pussy? Does your partner say nice things about your pussy? Remember, our organs have their own brains- pussies remember. Treat them well, and if they haven’t been treated well take steps to emotionally heal those traumas (Read ‘Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom’ by Dr. Christiane Northrup). If you struggle having orgasms (most ladies do) thinking and stroking your pussy more will start to awaken that blood flow. Another book you can flip through to help you learn more about your orgasm and the stigmas attached to female orgasm is ‘I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide’ by Dorian Solot. The truth is there is so much information out there- just watching videos and reading a few pages here and there opens up the floodgates!  

Buy a Yoni Egg

If you have spent a couple weeks telling your pussy sweet nothings then hop onto Amazon to purchase a Yoni (aka: Pussy) egg. Mine is the jade version. There is a plethora of YouTube videos on Yoni egg practices or even self yoni massages. Yoni eggs bring awareness, gratitude and aliveness to your pussy. Your body will start to feel more satisfied and you will rely less on external pleasure to get your turn-on like sweet treats! Paying attention to your pussy needs creates a space for you to spend more time with yourself, more self-love, more sexiness and more body connection. If you want to read up more on this check out Layla Martin’s website. I have learned some really cool things from her You Tube videos. 

 

Remember that the word “pussy” used in today’s connotation is derived from the word pusillanimous- to be weak or lack determination. That does not sound at all like most of the ladies I know with their atomic bomb pussies. They kick ass and take names. However, a little extra sensuality sprinkled into our lives only adds to our health not to mention our perceptions of aging (Goddesses never age!). I am not asking you to deny any part of yourself, but to rid yourself of the belief that you must be a certain way to experience pleasure, life-force and love. Have the courage to step into your authenticity- whether that is masculine/feminine, right brain or left brain. Honour the two sides that we have that are equally valuable and equally important. 

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